The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.
~Anna Quindlen
Sarah Sheard | Therapist

Sarah Sheard, Writer and Therapist
Sometimes it is beneficial to seek out a neutral third party to explore what isn't working in your life.

Therapy is simply being in a quiet, airy room with an attentive and actively supportive/challenging listener for an uninterrupted hour. During that hour you may focus entirely upon your own life, your progress, obstacles and any unfinished business from the past that you sense is intruding into the present and preventing you from living as happily and courageously as you might.
need therapy?
how do you know
Have you observed that the particular difficulty you're having isn't going away on its own and is having a persistent, negative impact on your personal life, your relationships, your work?
Have other people suggested you seek a therapist?
Do you find your negative thoughts or feelings have a cyclic, chronically recurring quality such that you wonder whether they're ever going to change or resolve?
Do you feel vaguely flat, ill-at-ease, no longer as engaged by your life as you wish to be?
Are you hit by spikes of sadness, anger, or other emotions which seem out of scale to their cause?
Have you hit a creative impasse?
Many people coming in for therapy answer "yes" to some or all of the questions above.
journalism
Sarah's Views
Writing at Home
“Writing at home is hard. It's, like, a focus problem. The path to the desk is paved with great distractions. There's that rental video due back so maybe you should watch it right now.”
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Angels and Devils
“We all have them in our psyches, competing for space.  Sometimes the devils are in charge—say, at 3 a.m., in that dark night of the soul.  At other times the angels take over and guide us through hours and hours of the most difficult work.”
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Rejection
“Rejection stings like hell. When we were kids, it was a matter of life and death to be liked — by family, teachers and friends — but we quickly found out that the world could be cruel and scrambled for ways to toughen our hides.”
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book reviews
Wrong About Japan
Book by Peter Carey
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Leonard Woolf: A Biography
Book by Victoria Glendinning
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Be Near Me
Book by Andrew O'Hagan
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therapy
a summary

I am skilled at helping you dissolve old patterns, take new risks. I am trained both in Cognitive therapy (talking about the problem) and in Gestalt therapy (evoking the problem in the present).

Gestalt therapy focuses on raising awareness of emotions, sensations and associations as they arise and influence your body, mind and experience of the present moment. In a Gestalt session, I will invite you to attend to where and how you may be interrupting contact with your feelings, thoughts, sensations, and the environment.

I can help you become more present to the moment and to your own creative potential to problem-solve.


what to expect
I offer an initial 15-minute telephone consultation or brief email exchange before we begin therapy. Individual sessions are one hour long. (Couples often request an hour and a half.) I am interactive and collaborate with you in setting the agenda for the session.

Sometimes the problem you come in with can be unblocked in one or two sessions. Sometimes a series of weekly or biweekly sessions is beneficial. You will quickly discover which feels right for you.

Between sessions I may offer you a piece of homework to try out. This often takes the form of a small experiment designed to support your exploration of a new pattern, a step in a direction you've identified as desirable but haven't yet taken.

The following session, I will ask for your feedback on the experiment.

my strengths as a therapist
Among my strengths as a therapist are my 22 years of professional experience, my humour and empathy, my ability to quickly intuit the underlying issues and emotions that may be contributing to your difficulty. I am direct but never a basher. I am creative and non-judging. My consulting room is airy, large and informal.

I maintain strict confidentiality.

working with couples
I tremendously enjoy the challenge of working with couples. Over the past few years, I've trained with Terry Real, founder of Relational Life Therapy. I love his ground-breaking approach to couples therapy and the work he does with psychotherapist and infidelity specialist, Esther Perel. I recommend his guidebook, New Rules for Marriage, to couples I'm working with and never cease to be inspired by Terry's insights into how to live more relationally with others.
office
location
My consulting space is a townhouse located at #10 Lydia Court. It is located south of Danforth, east of Jones Ave.

There is no waiting room. Simply come to the door and ring the bell or knock. Directions and a map can be found in the contact section.